Why do men like younger women?
“The two most powerful kinds of people are old men and young, pretty women,” Sunday New York Times.
Yes. Men in general do like younger women. However, a true man will love a woman despite of her age. So true, right? Anyway, I have asked a few men about this subject and the common answers they have thrown were:
- Men mature later mentally.
- Men are visually creatures.
- Men love the ego boost.
It is biological. It is all about procreation and fertility. It’s our nature to seek out young and fit specimens of our own species for sex to increase the possibility of another generation. Men are visually attracted and they like the sight of a tight body and dislike fat and sagging breasts.
For some men, having a younger gal interested is an ego boost. The young girls make them feel more alive and younger. His self-esteem will be that much higher if they are perceived sexually striking to the opposite sex and it’s even better if she is younger, because it just means that he punches out of all the younger men out there.
On the other hand, it is not always the guys’ fault. Younger women also seek out for older men, because they get turned on by the perception of power. Same with young men, young men love older women. We are crazy.
I love older men. In fact, I’m in love with one right now because I feel secured when I am with him. He has wisdom and a man with knowledge. More matured, more confident and calmer than other men I know and I hope it just will stay that way.
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March 19th, 2008 at 11:27 am
Who’s the man? :P
*hugs*
March 19th, 2008 at 5:58 pm
The problem is with women over let’s say 30 or 40 that they have been thru so many relationships and get negative. So for me, if a woman is positive and energetic, it’s ok if she is even over lets say 40. But generally speaking, younger girls are more fun to be around.
Just my dos centavos.
March 19th, 2008 at 10:46 pm
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March 20th, 2008 at 12:30 am
I guess it really depends on individual. For myself, I do not go for younger ladies. No doubt they may be sweet or cute. But end of the day, I prefer someone who I can connect and engage with. So to speak, age does not really matter to me.
March 20th, 2008 at 1:39 am
Hi Laarnaay,
I’ll take this from a different point of view. Older men have the tendency to be controlled, if you give them attention and tender loving care (no nagging, no same question asks everyday), they become so submissive. Young women have a knock of doing that. Men of older age are generally sexually imaginative. They want to feel younger but submissive at the same time. We have a lot to share, so I hope more women comment on this.
March 20th, 2008 at 8:17 am
it could be that younger women like older men, too!
March 20th, 2008 at 3:27 pm
that really made sense haha..
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March 21st, 2008 at 12:36 pm
i don’t know but for me age really doesnt matter and besides my man is younger than me..
March 21st, 2008 at 12:53 pm
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March 21st, 2008 at 12:56 pm
oh. so ganun pala… ngayon ko lang nalaman. noon ko pa yan gusto malaman… :))
March 21st, 2008 at 1:03 pm
i cant give an opinion about it. only men can answer that hehehe asawa ko kasi mas gusto nya older women.
March 21st, 2008 at 3:38 pm
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March 21st, 2008 at 3:40 pm
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March 21st, 2008 at 5:11 pm
Lover is 34-years old
March 22nd, 2008 at 12:23 am
^35 thank you very much.
The simple shallow answer might be that younger women are generally more attractive to us, physically.
to rhea calma:
“…Older men have the tendency to be controlled.”
By what statistics are you taking this from?
“Young women have a knock of doing that”
Young women have a “knack” for doing what exactly?
“Men of older age are generally sexually imaginative.”
True. It’s from having the experience and knowing the world has more to offer. But.
“They want to feel younger but submissive at the same time..”
Please don’t generalize, that’s what gets us all in trouble. Everybody is different.
One of you had a point that SOME younger women tend to go for older men, call it the attraction for power, a deep rooted psychological thing, or whatever, but it does make an older man’s job easier when a younger woman is more receptive to him.
I could also go for why older women are sometimes less attractive to us; physically , emotionally, psychologically, and even biologically, but that’s for another story.
March 22nd, 2008 at 1:04 am
From a pervert’s perspective, they’d want younger women so they could screw fresher soulja girls.
March 22nd, 2008 at 7:13 am
nagkaroon ako ng bf na few years older than me. ok naman kasi un nga, alaga talaga nya ako.
ngayon naman, i’m inlove with a guy younger than me. pero kahit na mas bata sya, parang magka-age lang kami. siguro kasi isip-bata pa rin ako. :P hehe..
for me, siguro, it doesn’t matter kung mas matanda or mas bata ung partner mo, basta you are comfy with each other. ung compatible talaga kau.
March 22nd, 2008 at 11:55 am
Some women say “my man is younger than me” but how young? Three months younger. LOL That is sh!t. If your man is a year or two younger than you, that’s nothing. Come on, girls. A year or two isn’t a big gap!
Women can easily get mature, especially when she already gave birth. But that can be fixed because of medical technologies nowadays. But some don’t because of their inherited genes and they take care of their health a lot in natural ways.
March 22nd, 2008 at 4:05 pm
Older woman = matrona
Older man = DOM
March 22nd, 2008 at 6:17 pm
Thank you, guys, for your comments. I’m in a hurry and can’t reply with you individually.
Maybe later. *mwah*
March 24th, 2008 at 8:39 pm
Kasi masarap magmahal ang mas bata
March 25th, 2008 at 7:02 am
maybe because he can play around with the young girl’s feelings. its really easy to manipulate a young girl’s heart, especially if she’s naive.
i date older men not because im still naive. lol, but because i chose to date them. because i also think older men are more mature and has more knowledge than younger men.
March 27th, 2008 at 9:46 pm
I am involve and married to an older man too.I totally agree with you on your last paragraph
I think men like younger women because they are not cranky and sour
March 28th, 2008 at 2:48 pm
I used to prefer older men because they have experience, they can teach me a lot of things, they seem dependable – the “been there, done that” kind of thing. but I ended up with a man a year younger than myself. I feel completely loved, nevertheless, so I came to the conclusion that age, as a determinant of someone’s ability to perform in a relationship, is inferior to one’s willingness to give him or herself to someone else.
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April 10th, 2008 at 8:08 am
My live in boyfriend who is 6 years younger than me is the best boyfriend I ever had.The others were older and a bunch of stinkers.
April 11th, 2008 at 2:04 am
Just four words: Nothing Wrong With COUGARS!!!!
June 6th, 2008 at 6:36 am
Im a female, 20 and am attracted to a former teacher who is 40. For me its a power thing, and the fantasy of being with someone who was once “untouchable” because of the circumstances. And the fact that its “taboo” kinda turns me on. I dont want to see him in regular clothes, I want to see him in the clothes he wore when he was my teacher, and I want him to take charge and be agressive physically and sexually towards me. Thats what gets me going. Anything else from him kind of disgusts me. Even if in his mind he thinks he is manipulating me, hes not because im acting out a fantasy, I dont care about the nice things he says about my personality, because thats not what im looking for. I think its just a sexual fantasy for me.
July 20th, 2008 at 10:12 pm
Hi, I am really annoyed with these little articles saying that older men like young women because it makes them feel better. What a load of crap. This may be true in some cases, however, generally speaking this is not true. I have always been attracted to older women, and I mean always. A few weeks ago I met a young lady who is 20, I am 38, she is smart, mature and beautiful and drives me crazy. I think it simply comes down to you are attracted to who you are attracted to, regardless of age. I do not chase younger women by any means, all common sense would tell me to stay away from someone 18 years younger than me, sometimes life throws you little surprises that you have to act on, go figure. My advice is this. If you see someone you are attracted to then go for it, the worse that could happen is that he and or she can say no.
July 27th, 2008 at 1:47 am
Time takes away a beautiful essence from some people. They become bitter, unhappy, and miserable after a few ups and downs. Myself, I’m 42 years old, just finished with a 33 year old man (my choice). I personally prefer someone younger. Not only are they beautiful physically, they seem more alive, fresh (within), and just not tainted and all bent up by life yet. I search for happiness, and I find that if someone around me isn’t searching for the same, or are just plain happy hearted, they tend to damper my spirits.
August 2nd, 2008 at 2:21 am
“”"Time takes away a beautiful essence from some people. They become bitter, unhappy, and miserable after a few ups and downs.I personally prefer someone younger. Not only are they beautiful physically, they seem more alive, fresh (within), and just not tainted and all bent up by life yet. I search for happiness, and I find that if someone around me isn’t searching for the same, or are just plain happy hearted, they tend to damper my spirits.”"”
Hi,
I personally think that was the most accurate, soulful answer to this and similar questions, I have ever read. Lynn could not have been more spot on. I am only thirty-two, far from ‘old’ (whatever that means) but already I can sense a dullness of those around me of the same age bracket. Not boring, but someone…hmmm, missing something. Who knows, maybe they feel that way about me
I just know that being around younger people, regardless of sexuality, seems to recharge my batteries somehow. Young adults within the last 5-7 years have evolved so much mentally that someone say twenty three, tends to be far more mature and more of an individual than what was the norm, when I was twenty three. Does that make any sense?
August 9th, 2008 at 6:57 pm
I’ve always thought that as a man ages his “market value” increases and vice-versa for a woman. Haha. Well I think it’s partially true for some. =P
August 16th, 2008 at 6:56 pm
Hmm…. this kind of somewhat explains the reasoning of possibly why this guy I was interested in like, from my perspective had a lot of younger, female friends…..
August 17th, 2008 at 2:12 am
It’s all about being positive right? Knowing that it can and will get better even after the hardest of times. Knowing that there is no sense on dwelling on the negative aspect of ANYTHING just continue to love to live and live to love. And with those that are still young at heart they usually have that outlook. I once came across some words written by C. S. Lewis about 10 years ago, and to this day I’ve never forgotton how he touches base on how people are so scared of life. Because in order to enjoy life you must love. I’ve enclosed a copy of it. Read it and enjoy it.
To love at all is to be vulnerable. Love anything, and your heart will certainly be wrung and possibly be broken. If you want to make sure of keeping it intact, you must give your heart to no one, not even to an animal. Wrap it carefully round with hobbies and little luxuries; avoid all entanglements; lock it up safe in the casket or coffin of your selfishness. But in that casket –safe, dark, motionless, airless– it will change. It will not be broken; it will become unbreakable, impenetrable, irredeemable. The alternative to tragedy, or at least to the risk of tragedy, is damnation. The only place outside of Heaven where you can be perfectly safe from all the dangers and perturbations of love is Hell.
~C.S. Lewis, The Four Loves, (1960)
August 28th, 2008 at 5:57 pm
Hi, thanks for your comment in my blog, anyways, each man is different, you cannot really tell if he likes younger women, it depends upon the perspective or lets just say “beauty is in the eyes of the beholder”
Society is really to blame for this kind or perception generalizing things that arent really true in the eyes of every man, anyways, thats just my opinion, who cares, we are only the ones who know what we want in our lives.
September 28th, 2008 at 8:23 pm
I’m glad I found this post! I’m in my mid 20s in love with my teacher who is in late 60s. He is happily married and there hasn’t been anything between us, but I have been in love with him for more than a year now. I started liking him totally out of admiration and respect -which i still do- but I do wish I were able to stand by him more than just a student. My friends think I’m crazy and that I misunderstand my feeling towards him. Maybe they are right. Who knows what’s the truth? We all are complicated creatures.
Sometimes, it is frustrating to realize that my love will never return the way I want, but everytime I see him, the only thing that matters is how happy I am to be around him. He does know that I have feelings for him and he tries to guide me in the right direction which I appreciate…
May 25th, 2009 at 6:18 pm
i love older womens, definitely they may be hot!!
June 11th, 2009 at 4:35 am
hey im 21 and my bf is 39 we have been 2gether just over a year and have not had 1 argument!! Feel so happy!
July 9th, 2009 at 2:39 pm
Older men make better Lovers.
Older men fall in love deeply, truly and forever.
August 5th, 2009 at 12:13 pm
i luv this blog really…i am also inluv to a man older than me. He keeps on asking me y I do luv him but I don’t really knew the answers,i just feel that i want him, iwant him to protect and care for me the way he’s doing right now…
August 25th, 2009 at 9:24 pm
The older half of a relationship usually takes the lead because they simply have more experience. The younger half usually shows respect by trusting in that experience. In general women usually like to be the recipient of acts of affection. Men are usually looking for respect, not so much affection. With an older man younger woman, the age and gender bias compliment, usually. Older men usually want and get more respect from younger women. Younger women usually want and get more affection from older men.
Usually, young men are emotionally immature for relationships as compared to young women so that older men (5 years or so) and younger women find themselves as peers in dating.
The irony in the whole thing is that young women, who have less sex drive than young men, find themselves in a committed sexual relationship years before them. Then the younger woman, who will out live men her own age by several years, has added to how much longer she will oulive her mate.
January 3rd, 2010 at 2:35 am
Well I like men of the same age….. It makes things more sexier between the couple <3
March 16th, 2010 at 7:35 pm
A woman prefers to have an older partner because she wants to feel secured. It is in the nature of a woman to think about her future. Another reason is that older men know how to handle relationships.
July 18th, 2010 at 11:57 am
IM 21 YRSOLD AND IN LOVE WITH A 49 YR OLD MAN. WEVE BEEN TOGETHER FOR 6 MONTHS NOW. HE HAD A 3YRS RELATIONSHIP BEFORE. I HAVE READ HIS MAILS AND FOUND OUT THAT THEY ARE SO IN-LOVE WITH EACH OTHER DURING THOSE TIMES. IM A BIT HURT, THOUGH I SHOULDN’T BE, BECAUSE IT IS ALREADY HIS PAST, BUT WEIGHING OUR LOVE FOR EACH OTHER SEEMS LIKE A LOT LESS THAN HE AND HIS EX-GIRLFRIEND HAS. PLUS WHAT I DIDN’T LIKE IS THAT HE’S CALLING ME SAME ENDEARMENT WITH HIS PAST LOVE, AND WHAT HE PLANNED FOR THEM BEFORE, IS WHAT HE’S PLANNING FOR US RIGHT NOW. I’M SCARED THAT MAYBE HE JUST SEES ME AS A PROXY FOR HER PAST LOVE. BECAUSE THE GIRL WENT TO OTHER COUNTRY AND IT IS HARD FOR THEM TO STILL BE TOGETHER.
I NEED AND ADVICE. DO HE REALLY LOVE ME? OR JUST SEEING ME AS A SUBSTITUTE FOR HER PAST LOVE?
August 2nd, 2010 at 9:51 am
My best friend told me that generally speaking, men like older women naman coz they want someone to take care of them kasi nga di ba late sila mag-mature. My bf is 6 years younger than I am & we’re both enjoying each other’s company even if we have diff likes/dislikes & surprisingly, parang matured pa sya than me
Well, I guess age really doesn’t matter, maturity does. 