The statement opposites attract is intriguing. Finding someone who is completely unlike you in every way but still happy with themselves.
But this is not always the case. I believe that couples have to have something that they like doing together and not just in a horizontal position. Basically, their morals must be the same somewhere along the line, no matter how opposite they are. Like men are generally interested in sports while most women are not. There is respect for each other’s dissimilarities.
Couples should not always have enough similarities to create a good foundation, but also just enough differences to keep each others interest, or at least keep up a sense of individuality, because I believe that being dynamic can be fascinating and challenging too.
My man and I have lots of differences and similarities. Exciting, isn’t it?
Him: can draw
Me: stick figure
Him: geek
Me: anti-geek lol
But we both love wooooooooooooooot. Mwahaha!
They do attract, but if there is nothing to hold you together as stated like similar values and interest and things you can talk about and laugh about then it doesn’t last or seldom I can’t say never.
For some it can be applied…like fire needs water,when your partner is angry you have to stay low so that things will not get worst.
I think the basic thing is: similar people can attract, and so can opposites. SO. EVERYONE CAN ATTRACT TO EACH OTHER. Endless possibilities. Yey. That’s what I perceive it as, pmsl.
I believe in the idea that opposites attract, I’ve felt it and it gives a lot of meaning to the usual “you complete me” line. Hahahaha
You’re completely right, I think that there has to be a baseline of similarity or else it doesn’t work out. Even fundamental differences like political affiliation, eating habits (e.g. veg[etari]an, omnivorous), religion… they are only as divisive as people make them. In the end, there has to be some sort of similarity, but not too much (I wouldn’t want to date myself… I see me everyday! hehe).
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Both opposites and similar people can attract, it also depends on them too
I think opposites sexually attract. I think that is a true statement. And when you think about it, two people who are completely opposite are going to probably breed out various flaws; however, two opposites don’t make a lifetime pair.
AMEN!
I think you summed it up pretty well. Personally, I need someone who roughly, has the same goals as me [IE: to have a good career]. But I definately need someone who’s into different things, has different opinions. I like a healthy argument
I agree with you. Opposites do attract but in order to stay together you need to have something in common otherwise your relationship will break apart. I know so many couples who didn’t last because they were TOO different, from different backgrounds, hobbies etc… it just doesn’t work.
I agree with what you say. I think most importantly two people have similar experiences … even if they are different.
I hate to tell you this, but you’re a geek if you have a blog. At least a little.
Yeah, having your own identity is definitely important.
I think that opposites do attract, but like you stated in the article, there has to be similarities in a relationship as well. Without there being a common ground between two people, what will one person fall on when the relationship hits a low point?
I definitely agree with you there. Some differences are healthy for the relationship – to ensure things keep going. But having common values (at least to some extent) is fundamental for building a long-lasting friendship/relationship.
Basically, I agree with you.
If one of you stopped one’s enjoyment, then relationship will never work out.
In a relationship, you cannot tell him/her “STOP” coz you can’t enjoy what s/he’s doing. ALL things have to be talked about, not argue to change things in a snap.
I certainly agree with you. I’m a high believer in this moral.
Just because you have differences, doesn’t mean the relationship won’t work out.
I’m this way with a lot of my friends as well.
Even if we have differences, or disagreements, we talk about it.
I do agree there must be a balance as in most things. When in harmony, a relationship and most things work well. If both are the same totally, would that be sort of boring? There have to be some differences to have a constant injections of surprises.
End of the day, it is the respect of each other differences and communication that make it work in relationship.
that’s so true… my bf and I are so different. but there’s one thing that we’re the same by being inlove to each other.. hehehe
your post is a bit similar w/ my post with my other site. lol
it’s just, this is way too formal than mine..
but then, I still wonder was that really Chemistry? opposite charge attracts!? haha!!
I can only speak for myself and my current relationship. I can’t say that we’re opposites or exact opposites, as we do share the same general interests… though the way we think or view things are different. At the end of the day, the chemistry’s there and somehow, the qualities that each of us possess as individuals, uh, “jive” and make us super compatible. Or maybe it’s just love. Heh.
@Helga it’s love!!!!!!
@J haha you got me there!
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Very well said. I agree with you. Opposites do attract but at the same time you must have one or two similarities. My last boyfriend, we were completely opposite. I don’t think we were similar in anyway which is why we broke up. We never enjoyed the same things.
I dunno, I learned in psych that opposites don’t attract. That basically we’re attracted to what’s familiar. If we’re around someone a lot, we grow to like them. If we see someone has something in common with ourselves, we like them.
obviously no two people are exactly the same and differences are good, but most couples have a lot in common
I think people get attracted to each other and then they will realize whether they are opposite or of same interest. Kung ano man sila, if they are really attracted then that’s it, against all odds yun…
Mwah
this is true in some cases, pero in some hindi rin talag.a lolz. xD anyway, that’s just an opinion. :P
I like what Eunice said on number 3. hehehe!
An interesting article indeed. I linked this article in my blog too.
Funny. I am very attracted to this guy in our class who happened to be a complete opposite of me in terms of personality traits, except that we’re both very knowledgeable when it comes to things and that we are both very interested in learning and discovering stuffs. He’s obviously an extrovert while I am an introvert – and that’s evidently the major difference we have. Also he’s an arrogant and confident bastard while I’m not, and I guess that’s what I find especially attracted in him: He can do things I can’t with effortlessly.
(Yeah, so I’m leaving you with a cliffhanger
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