Many people seem to think that flirting is a dirty and sexual way that women subliminally force a man to acknowledge and lust after her wiles. People are called flirts with a negative connotation, or women even become afraid to use flirtation to attract a man.
Flirting is a HUGE part of the interaction between a man and a woman, and it is a natural mechanism, much like the mating dance of animals throughout the world. Flirting is not about getting a guy to like you using some underhanded sexual technique, it’s about getting him to understand that you’re interested. There is nothing wrong with that.
By flirting with a guy, you are giving him the indicators that he is looking for that show your interest. This gives them the green light, so to speak, to approach you, kiss you or whatever it is you want to happen in your interaction.
So there are two ways to flirt. Conversation is a very effective way to flirt with a man. (You can actually use these tips on flirting at any stage of a relationship, as well. Christian Carter has actually made a program called, Natural and Lasting Attraction that is exclusively about firing up and maintaining attraction, check it out if you want to become an expert on flirting and maintaining attraction throughout your relationship).
During conversation, you need to show the man that you are confident and sure of yourself. If the guy you are talking to is quiet, he may just be surprised and nervous – after all, men have the same fears we do. If you’ve tried initiating dialogue and it seems to be failing, keep yourself available to him by standing by him for a few minutes. If he’s interested, he’ll eventually start a dialogue topic to prevent you from leaving. At that point, you can suggest some type of activity to do together, like playing a game of pool, or looking at something on the other side of the room. Another key to sparking and maintaining Natural and Lasting Attraction is to show the guy that you are spontaneous, self-reliant and unpredictable.
The second method of flirtation is using body language, which is VERY effective and probably what most people think of when they are talking about flirting. Here are several things you can do to use body language to flirt.
- Do not cross your arms because this indicates that you are not interested, and while many men do not think they know the first thing about body language, to many it is innate, and they will interpret this gesture as a negative action.
- Use eye contact. Make eye contact with the guy you are interested in and hold it, smiling demurely or cocking your head to the side to indicate interest.
- Licking your lips (or him licking his!) is a sign of attraction as well. Your mouth tends to dry out when you get aroused, and this is an external indicator.
- Leaning toward him will indicate open and honest interest as well. If you do it right, it will also emphasize your breasts and your sexuality if you want to go that way.
Always remember to keep both your body language and your conversation open and fun when trying to attract a man’s interest. Don’t speak negatively about experiences or people, as negativity has no place in flirtation. Remain confident and spontaneous, using eye contact and attraction signals with body language to keep him on the hook during your conversations as well. Flirtation is a natural part of the human mating dance, and can also keep your relationship fresh and young no matter how long it lasts.
Well, I am a tease. harhar. 
I posted those tips before in my blog.
Almost the same!
I find this one very interesting, and uhmmmm, amusing too. I never thought women would find it difficult to flirt (or in your own translation – make a guy interested with a girl) with guys. I thought its us guys should master the art of flirtation with women. Hehe. Or maybe because with just a girl’s quick eye contact and a smile are already enough for me to start a good conversation. Talking about confidence and “lakas ng loob” perhaps.
I think when a man flirts, either he really likes the girl or he just wants to have some fun. hehehe. Thanks for dropping by.
Nice tips! This sure comes in handy!
-_- People often mistake my actions for flirting
Flirting is either second nature to me or I’m just really friendly hehe
Hello,
First and foremost, I will start out by apologizing for my honest-to-God, proper, bona fide, straight up, native US/Intl. English.
I had visited the Philippines just recently last calendar year; it seemed to me that a very large percentage of the girls there seemed very afraid to go “anywhere”
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But in all seriousness, I did feel that this was a major problem. It might have been, to some small degree, due to me being 6′ 4″, natural red-haired white American, (http://www.facebook.com/photo.php?pid=1673309&l=81948b0042&id=819019787 , if you’re interested) but I felt that the problem was more to the widespread “negative connotation” that I found was present, even among men, which I found to be extremely odd.
I eventually found “the right group” of girls to hang out with, but the majority of the women there seem very emotionally and sexually deprived in that respect regardless, because of the sociological/cultural limitations imposed on them from birth.
However, you pretty much covered everything I had to say with your first 3 paragraphs, so, excellent job.